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Breaking up is hard to do (and how to stay friends)

My girlfriend and I have recently broken up. As in, last night. I was so devastated, plus having depression doesn’t help. (Yeah yeah I know, you came here looking for porn. NOT going to happen anymore people. I’ve moved on from all that). We were together for close to nine years. That’s a long time to be with someone. In the heat of the moment, I said some things out anger that I didn’t mean, but who doesn’t? So, in the interest of staying friends with your ex, here’s a few things I’ve learned from past break-ups

1. Do not, under any circumstances, BEG TO FOR YOUR EX TO COME BACK

Right now, you are hurting. It feels like someone died. But the last thing you want to do right now is beg for your ex to come back to you. They just aren’t in that frame of mind right now. And being clingy really isn’t attractive in a person.

2. Just because¬†they don’tt appear to be hurting doesn’t they aren’t

So she’s mentioned the two dreaded words “It’s over”. And it doesn’t look like they’re even hurting. Bull! My ex and I spent close to nine years together, and it didn’t like she was hurting at all. Yet shen she was telling a friend it was over and that she was leaving (ok, in the heat of the moment I told her to leave) she was close to crying.¬†Although I could just be reading too much into it as well

3. Do not be angry or abusive

Like I said, you’re hurting right now. But telling your ex you hate them and you wish you had never met them is the worst thing you can do. How would you feel if the situation was reversed?

4. Keep the lines of communication open.

This is probably the most important thing. But not for a while. You need to let the painful feelings go away. If they call you, then that’s ok. Just be polite. As my mother says “You catch more flies with honey”.

So that’s it. Eventually, the bad feelings will go away. On some level, you will proably always love your ex. And you just never know, one day, you might end up with them again. And because you know them so well, you know exactly what they want and how to treat them.

Until next time

Lord Yu

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February 29, 2012 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment